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Jacob
Jacob was a 4th grader who transferred to Saratoga from another
school at the beginning of the school year. Jacob’s
file was very thick, with numerous documents describing serious
behavioral incidents that necessitated physical restraint
and intervention. This arrived at our office with other information
describing the traumatic brain injury that Jacob sustained
years earlier, and the severe reading disability that he has.
Jacob and his family were welcomed at Saratoga, and they were
all anxious for a fresh start for Jacob. The beginning of
the school year was rough with Jacob. He frequently refused
to follow directions, and he ran away from the school on a
regular basis. In the after school classroom, Jacob became
easily frustrated and disruptive whenever the activity involved
reading.
We focused on literacy with Jacob, and let him know that his
behavior outbursts would not deter us from our mission. His
family joined our book club, One Book-One Family, that meets
monthly to discuss the books read during the month, eat dinner,
and receive books for the next month. Through this experience,
family reading time was structured into his evenings.
We noticed that Jacob had an interest in dogs, and he liked
to tell us about his dog. So, we decided to bring in a very
special little dog that is a foster-dog in the CLC site supervisor’s
home. We introduced this dog to Jacob, and told him that the
dog likes to be read to. Jacob readily agreed to read to the
dog, and after a few sessions, he was reading lengthy stories
to the dog and stopping to show her the pictures in the books.
He went home to tell his mother about the experiences he was
having reading to the dog, and she was amazed. She asked the
site supervisor, “Who would have thought that such a
simple thing could have this kind of impact on Jacob’s
reading?”
Through his experiences with the family book club and reading
to the dog at the CLC, Jacob’s reading fluency and confidence
increased.
We all rejoiced in Jacob’s success. As his confidence
increased, his negative behaviors decreased. Jacob still has
a long road ahead, but his progress is a testament to the
value in addressing literacy in non-traditional ways.
Ahstin
Ahstin and his sister came to Saratoga School two years ago.
They arrived as dirty, scared, angry children who had seen
too much of the worst in humanity. Where other children had
known warmth and security, love and protection, Ahstin and
his siblings had lived a life of insecurity, abuse, neglect,
and poverty.
A recent divorce in the family resulted in the children and
their mother moving to Lincoln to start a new life. Their
mother worked several jobs to support the family, and they
still could only afford to live in substandard housing.
Ahstin and his sister lied, stole, and caused problems with
their peers. BUT...their mother loved them and knew that placing
them in a structured after school program would increase their
chances of success in school.
With a combination of structure, quality academic activities,
and consistent expectations and consequences, the staff at
the CLC began to see underneath Ahstin's tough exterior. What
they found was a very intelligent, sweet boy who really wanted
to please the adults in his life. Soon, the teachers in the
after school program were saying that they just LOVE Ahstin,
and never want to lose him.
Also, Ahstin's mother frequently turned to the CLC for help
with the various issues that impacted her family. In time,
she and the children viewed the CLC as a safe place to go
for help.
One late winter Friday afternoon, Ahstin's mother rushed breathlessly
into the CLC office and asked for help. It seems that she
had rented a mobile home that did not have working water.
She and the children had lived in it all week, using a bucket
in the living room as a toilet, and going without baths, tooth
brushing, and other daily functions requiring water. As the
weekend approached, she said that the landlord had told her
he couldn't get to the water problem until Monday. She was
very concerned because she was working 12-hour days at her
weekend jobs, and her children would be without water all
weekend while she was at work. With a few phone calls to agencies
that partner with the CLC's, the mother's problem was addressed
and corrected. The city had laws and a system in place to
deal with situations like this one, but the mother required
help in learning how to navigate the system.
At Christmas, the mother shopped at our Santa Store, where
she and other parents who live in poverty were invited to
shop for new toys, clothes, and other gift items for pennies-on-the-dollar.
She even took home a beautiful Christmas tree and lights that
were donated by the Optimist Club. As she left the Santa Store,
Ahstin's mom said, "You will never know how much this
means to our family.".... And she began to sob.
Even though Ahstin's mother could get the children into any
daycare setting, she chose the CLC after school program because
she recognized its value to the children.
A scared, dirty, and poor family was embraced by the loving
arms of the CLC, and they have found a home at Saratoga School.
Raven
Raven is a Navajo child who attends Saratoga School. She lives
with her father and her grandmother. Raven is always well
dressed and is very obviously well loved. However, her father
works nights and has very little contact with the school,
and her grandmother was at one time very mistrusting of the
school. Raven's father and grandmother both want Raven to
have the academic advantage of participating in an after school
enrichment program, and she has attended the program all three
years of its existence.
When Raven was in third grade, she stopped doing her schoolwork
during the day program. She was lethargic and uncooperative
in the classroom. The teachers asked the CLC staff to support
their efforts by having Raven spend some time each afternoon
completing work she did not complete during the day. They
attempted to communicate their concerns to the grandmother,
but got no support from her.
For over a year, the grandmother came each day to pick up
Raven from the after school program, never spoke to us, and
went back home. Then one day, we brought some white mice to
the office. That day, Grandma stopped to look in the cage,
and she shyly asked us what was in the cage. We told her about
the mice, and for the first time she smiled and watched as
the little mice crawled out of their house in the cage.
Each day after that we made a point of saying "hello"
to the grandmother. And, she began to respond by saying "hello"
to us.
Then one day, the CLC site supervisor asked what Native American
tribe the grandmother belonged to. Grandma replied, "
I am Navajo."
From there, we discussed the famous Navajo Wind talkers from
WWII, and before long Grandma was proudly telling us many
things about her people.
Another year has passed since those first talks with Grandma,
and short, tentative conversations have led to a caring relationship
between the CLC staff and the family, punctuated by occasional
hand-squeezes, pats on the back, and gentle hugs.
Other changes were noticed...the father who NEVER came to
school before felt comfortable stopping by the CLC office
to check on things from time to time. Though always humble,
Grandma was no longer shy. She clearly valued the CLC, its
programs, and its staff. And best of all, Raven began focusing
on her schoolwork. The relationship that developed between
the CLC and the family clearly communicated to Raven that
her family considered school a high priority. And, the CLC
communicated to the family that they are important...their
culture is important...and their history is important.
Davarrius
Davarrius enrolled in Saratoga School in the fall of 2003.
He moved to this neighborhood with his father, his father’s
girlfriend, and various stepsiblings. Although only in first
grade, Davarrius was already a seasoned behavioral “artist”,
whose medium was physical and verbal disruption that impacted
the entire school at times. The family unit was also in distress,
with 5 mouths to feed, a baby on the way, and unemployment.
A relationship was established with Davarrius’s father
and his girlfriend, and both adults appeared to be very concerned
and also supportive of our efforts to modify some of Davarrius’s
more inappropriate behaviors.
A consistent behavior plan was put in place, and was adhered
to by staff and parents. In time, Davarrius’s behavior
outbursts decreased in frequency, duration, and intensity.
He began to make friends and benefit from the instruction
in the after school program. The CLC staff also tried to wrap
other services around the family to help them cope with the
issues that weighed so heavily on them.
With a baby on the way, our Early Childhood Outreach worker
visited the father’s girlfriend with a Welcome Baby
basket of baby supplies, books, and brochures about family
services available in the community.
The family also joined the family book club, One Book-One
Family, and they faithfully attended the club each month.
The children enjoyed the books, and the parents were able
to meet other parents in the neighborhood who attended the
book club.
The parents want the very best for their children, and so
enrolled the school-aged children in the CLC after school
program at Saratoga. And, during the school vacation weeks,
the parents again recognized the advantages of their children
participating in programming at the school.
When Christmas approached, one could easily see the stress
on the faces of the parents as they realized that Christmas
would be very limited this year at their house. Davarrius’s
father soon found a job as a waiter, and the father’s
girlfriend started an educational program at the Community
College. They were determined to make a better life for their
children.
The CLC staff believes in giving people a hand-up rather than
a handout, and the parents were invited to shop at the Santa
Store at the school. This store offered parents the opportunity
to purchase toys, clothes, and other gift items for their
children for pennies-on-the-dollar. Davarrius’s father
and his girlfriend made some careful and wise purchases at
the Santa Store, ensuring that their children would not feel
forgotten on Christmas.
As our partnership with the parents continues to grow, they
trust the school more in their decisions about the best programming
for Davarrius and his stepbrother. So much more can be accomplished
when a close partnership like this one exists.
The Boys
The boys have attended Saratoga since preschool. They are
now in 3rd and 5th grade. Both boys have struggled with issues
throughout their elementary school years, due to numerous
family problems. Their mother abuses drugs and alcohol. She
cannot maintain employment, and the family is heavily impacted
by poverty. The mother has damaged her relationship with the
day program staff, and so decided to develop one with the
after school staff. This relationship is often strained because
it is difficult for the staff to accept the many ways the
boys are hurt by their mother’s actions: they have lived
in a car for short periods of time; they have had their utilities
shut off for lack of payment; they have been severely neglected
when their mother is affected by drugs or alcohol.
However, the CLC staff has made a connection with the mother,
and has tried to assist her whenever possible.
When her car broke down, she said she couldn’t get the
boys to school until her car was fixed, and she asked for
our help. Through a partnership with Southeast High School,
the mother’s car was fixed for a minimal cost. When
the boys did not have beds or other furniture, we found furniture
for them. When the utilities were shut off, we connected the
mother with the contacts needed to resolve the problem. When
the mother was angry with the school bus drivers, the CLC
staff listened to her cry and vent about her frustrations.
When the Santa Store opened at Christmas time, the mother
was encouraged to shop there to purchase toys and clothes
for her boys for pennies-on-the-dollar. We helped her select,
carry, and even gift wrap items purchased.
This seemed like a mother who would always “take”,
and never “give back”.
Then…the CLC staff decided to start a Community Garden
Project. Knowing that this would be a huge work-in-progress
for years, the CLC site supervisor sent out requests for materials
and volunteers. Most of the responses for donations came from
Saratoga staff members and local businesses.
Then one day, their mother, very enthused and jubilant, came
to the CLC office, arms loaded with tomato cages, a 100-foot
hose, a sprinkler, and numerous packets of seeds.
She said, “I am so excited! This is something I can
do! I know EVERYTHING there is to know about gardening! I
want to help!”
She will be a wonderful helper in the garden throughout and
summer and fall. And the staff all learned a valuable lesson
from the boys’ mother…even people who seem to
be only “takers” may have much to offer, if we
take the time to learn their strengths, their hobbies, and
their desires. Their mother WANTED to help and contribute
to the community…she just did not know how. Once we
found her strength, she became a valuable asset to our program.
The Somas
The Soma family moved to the Saratoga neighborhood in the
Fall of 2003. The father, is single-parenting a 2-year old,
a 5-year old, a 6-year old, and a 7-year old. It is clear
that the children are loved, because they are joyful and kind
and they are loved by adults and peers at school. The issues
surrounding this family stem from extreme poverty. Although
the children are bathed and dressed in clean hand-me-down
clothing, they and their home are infested with lice.
Other issues include utilities being shut off for lack of
payment during the winter and inadequate warm clothing.
The CLC Site Supervisor participates in a student assistance
and review committee at the school. Each week, the committee
(consisting of the assistant principal, a behavior health
therapist from a partner agency, the school nurse, the early
childhood outreach coordinator, the resource officer, the
school social worker, and the CLC Site Supervisor) meets to
discuss families and children in crisis and they access resources
to address the families’ needs. The Somas were frequently
discussed at these meetings during the year, and eventually
the authorities were notified about the utility shut-off.
Mr. Soma came to school very upset about our notifying the
authorities, and the school social worker told him, “Think
of this as a visit to the emergency room. We are gathering
the needed resources to take care of your family.”
After that, the father was our “partner”. He realized
that we care about him and his children, and he worked with
us to address his family’s needs.
He enrolled the family in the One Book-One Family book club,
and they attended each month throughout the school year. He
enrolled the children in the after school program at the school,
even though he was home during those after school times. He
recognized the value of an enrichment program for his children,
and he pursued it for them.
At Christmas, the father shopped at the Santa Store, carefully
selecting gifts for each of his children. He attended school
functions and events, including Open House, the school’s
110th Anniversary Celebration, parent-teacher conferences,
and numerous other events. He accepted food and gift donations
at Christmas and Thanksgiving from a club at Southeast High
School that “sponsored” the family for the holidays.
I think that Mr. Soma is glad that he made that trip to the
“emergency room”.
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